We have rather large, black, hairy ones here. And yes, I can tell the males from the females, go me. The females are larger, thicker, darker, and just generally look more massive. The males are very slender and slight, but still large. The largest female I've seen was about half the size of my palm, and she was in the basement. The only time I've ever done an about-face on the stairs. I figured she could have it!

Now, I will sometimes catch crickets to toss at the webs of the garden spiders, because I actually LIKE those spiders. I think they're neat. But I figure the wolf spiders can fend for themselves. Funny thing is, for as scary as they look, they're actually harmless. They just look horrifying.

LOL, I like your description of him as a head of cabbage. Maybe I should use that name, instead. 'Hi, this is my tarantula, Cabbage.'

KITTENS! Coincidentally, my friend saklani2 has posted a story in her journal about Sammy as a cat, though I think it's venturing into Wincest soon.

She has some really interesting photos. Click on her spider-love tags. :)